DEAR ABBY: my family and i retired 5 years ago. We have adequate savings plus an exceptional retirement for us to reside easily.
We took up a spare time activity three years ago that creates about $5,000 in annual income, that I put aside in a bank account that is separate. My wife asked, “What are you saving that money for? ” I stated maybe a car that is classic assisting with a household reunion ( back at my part), etc. She responded, “We must be on the same page about how it gets spent because 50 % of it really is mine. ”
He sided with her because (legally) half of what I have is hers when I reached out to my son for his insight. We have not a problem consulting I feel she is controlling and petty with her on a major expenditure coming out of our other savings, but on this one. Your thinking?
HOBBY IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR HOBBY: I agree with you. Not only this, but she additionally lacks tact.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter just informed me that she’s going to be hanging a deer mind in their family room. Her boyfriend that is live-in loves hunt, and she actually is achieving this for him. Simply thinking about any of it makes me physically ill. My thoughts move to a dying animal whom is enduring.
We offered my child $12,000 to buy this home. I’d like her to rethink her choice on the basis of the undeniable fact that this disturbs me, perhaps not that I’m wanting to push her around her this money because we gave. I understand she’ll go on it myself and get upset at me. Help!
UNEASY IN OREGON
DEAR UNEASY: i do believe we both know your child is a grown-up and eligible to make that decision without worrying that her fella’s hobby bothers you. We don’t have actually to enjoy it or accept. Because what’s upsetting you is the concept that the deer suffered, ask your daughter (or him) how shots that are many took to use the creature down. If it had been more than one, you could be happier entertaining them at home.
DEAR ABBY: my partner left me just a little over two years back, and I can’t appear to get over it. All she stated had been that people had an “emotional disconnect. ” I don’t believe she was unfaithful.
All i could consider has been with her, and I also cringe if i do believe about her being with somebody else. I’m a specialist by having a good job and retirement, and I also have already been approached by some nice women who would really like up to now. How can I conquer my feelings for my ex?
LONELY WITHIN THE PLAINS
DEAR LONELY: are you currently escaping. And taking part in leisure tasks as your wife left? That could be one good way to get your mind off her because sitting around considering her is counterproductive.
Your ex partner need to have been more specific about why she left. Understanding could have aided you begin to really heal.
You haven’t been able to work this out, please talk with a licensed psychotherapist because it has been two years and.
Your physician or your quality of life insurance carrier will give you the true names of qualified experts. Please don’t wait to ask.